Admonitions from Lou Holtz in my Twitter stream jarred me out of a summer haze (not that kind, deviants…) this morning:
Ability is what you are capable of.
Motivation determines what you do.
Attitude determines how well you do it.
Admittedly, I’ve had a chip on my shoulder lately. Too often it’s easy to gripe about perceived injustice, lack of appreciation or acknowledgement from friends, family and in the workplace.
Even if said sentiments are valid, I’ve come to realize it’s just wasted time, space and energy.
As with forgiveness, happiness is a choice. It’s a gift we give ourselves.
Again, as mentioned in previous posts: the world doesn’t care if you have a degree, nor how hard you may have worked for it.
The world doesn’t care if you’re grossly underpaid, overqualified, under-qualified or entitled. If you have a dissertation, 14K grill like Lil Wayne, 10-foot spoiler on a tiny sedan or more bling than the polar ice caps.
But the world might care if you care. Might believe if you believe.
How many times, mornings…
Months does it get increasingly harder to wake up ready and willing to face whatever’s next?
To extricate ourselves from our own self-pity, helpless-complex or demoralizing slumps and quietly say:
I’ll try again.
I’ll be better.
And not for anyone else but me.
And with that perspective the nerve and renewed desire to lighten someone else’s load, too…
That’s commitment. That’s selflessness from selfishness. Cynics might dismiss as antiquated, but experience seems to say that forgiving yourself usually precedes forgiving others.
As Daniel Deronda said, it’s about using your unhappiness to help you see other peoples’ pain.
One of my favorite flicks is the story of John Nash, the mathematics savant from West Virginia played by Russell Crowe in A Beautiful Mind, which garnered 4 Academy awards (including Best Picture) in 2001.
One scene that particularly resonated with me depicts a young, salient and blisteringly impatient Nash witnessing a “pen ceremony” (where faculty present their pens in honoring and welcoming a distinguished member).
Though not an official rite of passage at Princeton, the reel goes on to Nash’s professor asking, ‘What do you see?’ Nash replies, “Recognition.”
Shaking his head, the professor elucidates him: Accomplishment.
So often we miss the mark because we’re too focused on the mark, rather than our motives and the process of getting there. Perhaps the hardest part is recognizing when perspective’s lost, where we might have veered off-course in our attempts to control where we’re headed.
The notion of a journey, not a destination. The notion of being present, and slowing down to embrace the moment for what it is.
Granted, nothing worthwhile comes without a cost. I’ve learned that the most rewarding and enriching experiences have also stretched me the most.
Have hurt the most. Have disappointed the most. But man you stretch — and that’s what truly matters.
My first annual review post-college is this month, a part-time gig at a humble, locally-owned business in the town where I attended university. Perhaps the title and the prestige aren’t there, but at some point the world doesn’t seem to care a whole lot about that either.
Rather than dwelling on the fact that friends, family and loved ones are thousands of miles away out West and scattered across the globe, I’ve learned in the past few years to focus on making the best of the people, places and time that are in front of me.
To check my attitude, and willingness to make someone’s life a little easier. To accept the only guarantee I know so far: change is consistent.
Upcoming Footloose ( ahem — remake) dude Kenny Wormald‘s onto something:
If you’re true to yourself and you work hard, and treat people with respect you will Grow…
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